Engaging in discussions about abuse and harassment can be difficult and uncomfortable. Please read our agreements that can be used to navigate these important conversations in a productive way while promoting accountability and healing.
Safety is our number 1 priority.
- Please give ‘trigger warnings’ if material is going to be introduced that could be activating.
- We don’t ask anyone to disclose their personal trauma history. If you choose to share your own, please use headlines only. (This is to prevent re-traumatization.) A headline example looks like: “I was sexually assaulted by a teacher when I was in high school.
We All Have a Right to be Human.
- We honor our differences always, centering them when appropriate.
- We respect each other’s right to be human (to have a bad day, to be triggered, to fail, etc.) Please take care of yourself in those moments.
Everyone belongs here.
- If someone discloses, please hold space for them. Don’t rush on to the next person or fill the space with your own story/commentary.
- We don’t analyze or speculate about other people’s trauma.
- Mistakes and questions are always allowed. It's how we learn and create a culture where we are willing to take chances and possibly make mistakes rather than not speak up out of fear of not getting it right.
We build trust with help from the BRAVING model (by Brené Brown):
- Respect Boundaries
- Be Reliable
- Expect and maintain Accountability
- Keep our Vault safe; remember the stories of others aren't yours to share without permission
- Act with Integrity
- Generosity towards others